Sorry you are here. I know it [censored] and hurts. Here are my answers:
· do you think letting him go was the right thing as I am doubting this decision? ( I guess I fear that he won’t come back)
Yes it was the right decision. He is already gone. Letting him go was for you, not for him. You need to look at it that way. He may come back, he may not, you have no control over that. But letting him go was you taking control of you! Good job, it is a hard thing to do.
I am planning to move jobs and accommodation in the next few weeks – I haven’t yet told him that this is what is happening – do you think I should tell him? (He is able to reach me if he wants as he has my phone number)
No don't tell him, just do it. Letting him go means you no longer initiate conversations about logistics. If he contacts and asks you can tell him then.
As far as other advice? Continue to detach. Work on you. Find ways to stay busy, get active. Find new friends or connect with old ones. GAL that only an idiot would be willing to walk away from.
It also struck me that his AP is 24 and you've been married for 25 years. Good grief. What could he possibly have in common with a 24 year-old?!?
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
