Maybe I missed it, but I don't remember you saying you've caught her with proof that she's having an affair. Your assumption that she is will kill your marriage as soon as if she actually is. Even if she is having an affair, marriages can recover from infidelity, but you must be patient. Give it time.
Like JujuB says, counselling and a babysitter are much cheaper than a divorce.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
