The state in which I live does not recognize formal separations. So I need to discuss with attorney I guess on what I am allowed to do legally. I am truly sorry to hear of all the pain you are going through too. I guess I forgave too quickly and my trust was restored but then torn down again and maybe I was blinded by what I thought we had together. Life is so short so why fight or keep score so I tried to always explain my concerns and fears along with compliments and attitude of gratitude by it was either too much or too little. So now when I insist on getting finances legally separated I need to be strong via email by phone or text and say; This is who I am without you, and even though I don’t want to be alone and even though I’d rather be with you, I will choose to be without you and I will get on with my life until you show me that you want a real marriage. all the while feeling like I am dying inside and hating the fact that $ is a necessity and must be kept separate from my heart. Trying to remember believe nothing what he says and 1/2 of what he does rule. Thank you all for your support. Will let you know how the legal conversation goes. Don’t know if I have to file a bed and board divorce since state doesn’t recognize legal separations and wondering now how to deal with in laws as I’ve known all them for 30+ years and love them all.
