Welcome. I am sorry for what you are going through. Here you will find many knowledgeable and compassionate people who know what you are experiencing.
Adios and peacetoday are correct you need to figure out how to be financially stable. You have already seen how quickly your H is draining your savings. Seek legal advice and go from there. It most likely won’t be pleasant or friendly, but it needs to be done.
You have probably read and experienced how the MLCr becomes opposite of the person you once knew. Your H says you’re controlling, nagging, and wanting him to fail. He is rewriting history. All typical behaviour, and I’m pretty sure, it is quite the opposite of the man you know. He is just trying to justify his behaviour. When my W left she blamed me for the furnace vent blowing on her and making her cold lol.
I am glad you ordered the DB book it is very helpful.
Post often, ask questions, we are here and we understand what your going through.
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Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
