Your H doesn't not need to spend the night when coming over for visits with special needs son. Honestly the overnight is probably what confuses him more. You've stated he is at the level of an 8yr old. 8yr olds are smarter than you think! From your post it sounds like your son is very routine oreiented - I get that.
If you are okay with H spending the night that is your choice and you know your situation best. I, however would have some boundaries for a spouse that just left the M home.
This is something that I have been thinking about. I was not expecting him to do this back and forth, and after last night with son, and today, I think son is more confused than ever. So this will probably be a boundary. I think H doesn't quite want to let go, maybe that's why he's doing it. But I can't do it.
Originally Posted By: KitCat
So Meg you have plenty of time to practice practice practice before Saturday. Go to a private place and be saying the words out loud. Come Saturday when H takes special needs son for a few hours. DO NOT MICROMANGE. Often times when spouses aren't doing individual parenting time its because they are being micromanaged or made to feel inferior.
As far as H spending time with s this weekend, I'm not saying a word to him about anything. He can figure it out himself. I won't see H very much, I doubt he'll come to the actual tournament for very long (he has never wanted to watch son at during his regular bowling league days). He will probably just pick son up from the bowling alley, then come bring him to me at the awards dinner in the evening. So I don't believe there will even be a chance for any time of issue.
Me-44,H-44 S21,S19,S17,D13 M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M) BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head) H moved out:3-4-18
