Quote: How long have you been contemplating bringing this up to her? Have you had a couple of days to ponder a discussion and now she only has a few short hours?
Actually, if there had been any time earlier in the week, I would have brought it up sooner. If I had thought that I could have brought it up this evening without having the evening arranged for me, I wouldn't have mentioned it to her this morning at all. The only thing I want to accomplish tonight is to give her a sense of what I have learned this week, and let her know that I've seen some possibilities I want to pursue. I want to invite her to participate with me in the process (she'll be a participant anyway). I don't expect her to understand initially. I expect her to feel like she's being dragged into this process kicking and screaming. In a way, I feel that way too, because now that I've read this book, I can't go back and "un-read" it, nor can I ignore it. I'm not going to be taking an adversarial stance, I'm not going to be "requiring" her to read the book, but if she's willing to, I'm going to be suggesting that we agree on tackling one or two chapters per week, and having a "standing appointment" to discuss it. I think we'll probably start with one chapter per week. I got through 6 chapters in the first afternoon/evening that I started, but I know she won't be up to that kind of pace, and it's more important at this point to go through it slowly, and understand it as we go. I'm just going to be saying to her that having read it once, I'm now going to be reading it again, and it would be really beneficial if she would read it with me.
