Meg, I can't remember if there was an OW or not? I think you didn't think so.
I don't think this whole thing started with an OW, except maybe he was starting to get attention from someone. Or maybe hanging out with single friends from work, or guys from work who never want to go home to their family (as told to me previously in stories by H). Now there might be the beginnings of OW, I don't know. Frankly, right now, I can't expend any energy on that, then I would just focus on "competing" rather than being good for me.
Part of H's reasoning for needing own apartment (so he says) is because he had to cut off all emotion for me (overnight, basically) after so many years of me not meeting his needs (he states that the first bit of marriage was perfect, then I started "shutting down, shutting him out, not giving him affection"). Now he doesn't want to work on M anymore. This is where I'm struggling. For years I truly believed that I was a horrible wife who just couldn't get it together to give him everything he was asking for. Lots of self-reflection lately, and I for the life of me can't see that my actions or behavior changed that radically. What I can see is that we started having children, and my focus was split.
If anyone has any insight into this type of situation, I will accept any and all input.
Me-44,H-44 S21,S19,S17,D13 M-22,T-29 (off and on prior to M) BD:12-20-17 (H said he had things to work out in his head) H moved out:3-4-18
