I'm still in a good place and acting "as if" but H was not where he was yesterday. I know that is to be expected.
Morning was rushed and we were supposed to sit down and discuss finances. We did but it was quick. He is still stressed about how the money goes out but it does every March with HOA yearly fees due and paying taxes. The money has been put back for this but it still drains the checking accts. We still have nearly $20k in emergency funds so we are not destitute.
He acknowledged that we are going go-karting with the kids. And, with 5 of us and lunch its going be a $200 day spending day. Then he acknowledged again that the following weekend going to the gun show and winery. I don't expect to spent more than $75 the entire day.
I like the fact that he is acknowledging.
We also briefly talked about our trip in May and then I had to point out it will require he change weekends with his ex for visitation. I thought that might make him cancel our trip because in the past its a nightmare to get the ex to exchange weekends.
He has been greeting me first with "hello" which is nice. He is coming out the room he is in to seek me out which is also nice.
He has been texting his ex a lot lately (no he does not want to rekindle that). Usually he shares what's going on but he hasn't been. And, its been weird. Today he called me and asked some random question then made a comment he got some nasty text from his ex. I just said oh, and non-nonchalantly asked what it was about. He replied "who do you think it was about?". I said "SS16?". He said yes. I said is everything okay? He said "you know exactly as much as I do". That was so random and vague. I just let it go and said "okay talk to you later".
When I get home after running errand he comes out to chit chat. I brought up what was going on with text's from ex? He looked at me funny and said "oh did I say something about that?" I was like yes, you mentioned some crappy text from her. He just said "oh".
That was just totally weird. I mean who did he think he was calling just an hour ago???
He just seemed off today. I expected that he would have pulled back a little bit. I'm not panicky about it. I'm not spinning my wheels. I just need to get back on the horse and continue to validate, improve my listening skills and keeping pulling away myself.
