I know first hand how devastating it is to be here-
I would definitely get legal help to figure out how to protect yourself
I also noticed my XH spending and racking up debt.. I called credit card company and took my name off all cards.. MY XH was typically careful with money until MLC.. then He spent and spent..very our of character but he also had a young OW who encouraged his spending and they gambled as well because I was not on the credit cards, I was not held liable for his debt and the credit companies called my home and office looking for him for years-finally they stopped
I also took 1/2 of the savings out.. took everything that was mine and took his name off all I legally could- legal advice is imperative here to save yourself from losing it all- once they have exhausted the funds there is no way to get them back- this is a common theme in MLC land
hang in-you will find your way
sometimes it is a tough call to create limitsand take care of us first- because the MLCer will get angry- but to not is to risk losing all we have worked so hard for- and Ive seen that happen for those who do not act-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
