Don't take his choices personal,, His MLC was never because of you
They don't give it much thought I believe until the rubber hits the road and you will not know what its like inside of the lovely house and in his skin,,
I think for most of us the key is to let go--totally- If they return we can reevaluate for now we are on our own-
Spend the rest of your energy to create a place for wellness and healing in thought and environment read, listen to tapes anything to help letting go
If you can see a therapist to help work through the loss and the cancer--many therapists will work sliding scale and the state usually also has agencies and support groups that run very cheap- Other people going through similar issues is so valuable
If you can: Change your thoughts wish them the best and practice letting go Seek therapy and support if you haven't already get more information on your rights legally and financially and see if the state can help you get what is yours
When my XH left with no contact I needed to get a passport for our then 14 year old... I could not locate him to sign the document so I went before a judge...she signed it and she asked me if I wanted to find him to get child support...I said no because I took our business from him when he began showing up high to work so I was ok financially The most important thing is to figure out the best plan for you to move forward..MY XH didn't like my choice to boot him from our company but it was going down the tubes under his care and I had 2 school age kids to raise alone- Do you and let him go-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
