New LBS, not sure if he's having LMC

[meg24]

So Meg why did he come over? Was this a scheduled visit for your special needs son? I find it a bit odd that he just moved out but yet is still having sleep overs? Scheduled visits for your special needs child shouldn't require overnight visits on your H's part.

This was a scheduled visit for special needs son, yes. We've put short term schedule on calendar, which does help. But I'm thinking the weekday visits are just going to confuse son, as he is still asking about other days during the week. Son told me last night he want Dad to stay my H, wants him to come home. I just tell him I know, I'm sorry I don't have answers for you, just think about today.

H is just angry. I think his comment about "normal" was to stir the pot? I think the best thing you can do is just keep smiling and be as pleasant as possible. IF he complains - validate... "I can understand why you might feel that way", "Oh, I was being quiet? I hadn't realized that"

You're very right, I think H is trying to stir the pot, or make me look like the "bad guy" because I'm not being "normal". It's okay, my kids know what's up, they see it all.

Now, you need to ask yourself what your boundaries are. H moved out and now he is sleeping over. Is this okay? Can he pick and choose what bed to sleep on at his convenience? What about your choice? You know your situation best but I would think he would value you move if you told him that you really wanted to give him his space and time right now and its confusing that he comes back and forth having only moved out a few days ago.

H said this back and forth right is now is to help mostly special needs son, but I almost wonder if it's something else, maybe for himself? He said he doesn't want to feel awkward when he's with us. Well gee, I think that boat has sailed.

We won't see him until Saturday, at special needs son's bowling tournament and awards dinner. He is going to take son to his new apartment in between the tournament and the dinner. That's 5 hours. I don't think he's spent 5 hours alone with this son since he was a baby. I'm pretty sure he won't again after this Saturday.