Originally Posted By: Btrow
Ouch, that had to hurt. Sorry man.


Well, I do admit I did dwell on that feeling for a bit until I realized it is really all pointless. It's an interesting feeling when you actually understand where the emotions stem from and how you can actually understand and accept them as they are, rather than dwelling on them for a prolonged period of time. Frankly put, this is not related to me at all. It's an external factor - like most of the emotions I feel - and external things aren't really related to my own self-worth or well being. Internal things are what matter the most. You can take away any external possession but you can't never take away what I have experienced myself and how I've grown from it.

Originally Posted By: Btrow
But don't worry about the toddler being more attached to OM. There can be only one daddy, and that is LC.


Thanks dude smile I do realize this, but as with most fears, they are really irrational and only in the mind. It'll pass and as I said there's no point in living in tomorrow instead of staying in the present.

Originally Posted By: Btrow

Regarding the rest of your post, wow, you have certainly done some self-growing. Impressive. Remember when You were a scared little LC and a giant mess just 5 or 6 months ago? Well done.


Thanks and a cliché here: "if I can do it, you can do it!". I believe it's truly just understanding and finding what brings happiness to you, realizing where your emotions come from and how you can control them. That, and realizing you're not alone in this world nor your ex-partner was the "only one for you". smile If I'm being asked, I will always say learning new things and pushing yourself over your limits no matter how much it hurts at that particular moment are the things every human should strive for. As far as I know, we are the only species that is born without any skills at all, except for sucking the tit and crying. We can't walk, we can't communicate - we are "programmed" to learn and push ourselves from the get-go.

Originally Posted By: Btrow

Just promise me that you every now and then shut down the computer, close the books, put on some of that extremely expensive cologne, and go out and let the ladies experience the new, improved, awesome LC.


Of course. However, being appealing for someone else is now against my own principles. I (try to) wear colognes because they make ME feel good, not to get some random girl to compliment me. smile Who the f@!% cares what other people think about me? That's the mentality what I'm constantly, day by day, working towards.


In my thirties, BDd 2017, divorced
2 young kids
new relationship