I'm just throwing something out here for you both to consider. I'm not saying it is 'right.'
The whole premise of the book is to 'become your own person.' And while I think we can support one another, I think it is important to not let this board become the 'soother' of anxious feelings.
I'd like to suggest something here. I think we can ask for clarification on 'derviving meaning from the book,' but as far as asking each other how we think we're doing in respective situations, it may be important to throw it back onto the 'asker of the question.' You know?
After all, it doesn't matter what anyone else here thinks. What matters most is what YOU (we as individuals) think.
Perhaps neither one of you realize the incredible courage and fortitude it takes to stand on your own two feet. While that doesn't sound difficult, the two of you (myself included), are already experiencing the pain of differentiation. This isn't a walk through the park guys, and the more 'fused' you are, the more anxious and uncomfortable the feelings of seperation are going to be.
