So Meg why did he come over? Was this a scheduled visit for your special needs son?
I find it a bit odd that he just moved out but yet is still having sleep overs?
Scheduled visits for your special needs child shouldn't require overnight visits on your H's part.
H is just angry. I think his comment about "normal" was to stir the pot? I think the best thing you can do is just keep smiling and be as pleasant as possible. IF he complains - validate... "I can understand why you might feel that way", "Oh, I was being quiet? I hadn't realized that"
He's a lot like my H. He doesn't want to hear the "but, I'm x,y or z". Not right now. He is looking to be angry.
Validating will diffuse the anger. It will make him think. You may not get a response you hoped for immediately but it will throw him off guard.
Now, you need to ask yourself what your boundaries are. H moved out and now he is sleeping over. Is this okay? Can he pick and choose what bed to sleep on at his convenience? What about your choice? You know your situation best but I would think he would value you move if you told him that you really wanted to give him his space and time right now and its confusing that he comes back and forth having only moved out a few days ago.
