Sorry if my choice of words bothered you -- that said, your wife's perspective will be that you rifled through the trash to find the information so I'd be prepared for that.
Yes, it did rub me the wrong way. I'm not that pathetic.
Sorry to snap back at you when you said that, I know you are trying to help.
Figuring this whole thing out is a bit overwhelming, but I'm staring to make progress I think. I've been spending a lot more time with the kids and we have talked a lot. Its helped put my mind at ease about things so hopefully I can start to move forward more consistently.
I've been doing a lot of reading, reflecting and expiramenting, so I am going to have some questions about my technique here in the next few days.
A question in the meantime though. I mentioned that I finally did the Facebook thing. If I send my W a "friend" request, would that be considered pursuing? As I said, she still has a picture of the both of us as the profile pic, which I assume is to keep up appearances. This is what I want to do until the time comes that we can't. My dilemma is that I'm not sure how she would receive that request. Pursuing? Spying? Just take it in stride?
What do you think?
M: 25 T:33 Me: 48 W: 49 S24, D21, D18, D15, S8 All living at home while going to school A confirmed: 12-25-17 EA Definite PA Probable
