Well, there is some comfort in knowing that I am not alone.
I believe this opportunity to reconcile all begins when WW WAW suffers a loss. I may be wrong but as this is my 2nd go round I can tell you without some sort of reconciliation you better keep your helmet on, because you'll be back.
As has been discussed, the LBH doesn't get to choose this loss and I would also say that if he intentionally facilitates it, it better seem organic or it will not be genuine. IMHO
My fear remains that the longer this dynamic of being " CoParenting Roommates" with possible occasional fringe benefits goes on and W displays respect etc, then the higher the probability that we slip back to business as usual without closure, without reconciliation.
These things take time. I get it. But isn't it possible that it never happens? Then what? How long can one cohabitate with 180 or rules or LRT without some movement on her side?
Great question and one I struggle with. Which is why I put a one year limit on it. However, here is the problem. The WW spouse may want the LBH to be the one to do the work. I do not think my wife wants to deal with it. Sometimes I think her current ploy is to wait me out until I grow tired of the sitch and pull the plug myself. Then she gets out of the guilt of having made the choice and can tell everyone "well he was the one that filed!"
The only thing she didn't like was when I told her that if I did file it would be on grounds of infidelity. Of course, there has been no physical infidelity but unfaithfulness is unfaithfulness.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
