So you have no assets between you except for his retirement? How long were you married, how old is he, and what is the retirement worth? Is it a pension or a 401k?
Also have you applied for SSI or SSDI? What kind of cancer do you have? I know my friend with stage four ovarian cancer applied for SSDI through an accelerated program for people with severe illnesses like hers - it still takes six months before it will pay though
We have been married for 11 years (he left a few months before our 9th anniversary), together for 16 years.
We are both 43. He'll be 44 in 2 months.
We sold our house 2 years before BD. We were underwater and took a loss. The retirement is a 401K and unbeknownst to me, he dipped into it the year before BD and took a big loan, so he's already spent his half. What's left is mine by law.
I don't know the exact worth, but it's enough that it's worth making sure it gets transferred over to me. And at this point, I'll take whatever I can get.
I have advanced breast cancer but I was not approved for SSI/SSDI.
