Saying ILY...

[mtb1981]

W pulled me into a 45 minute conversation yesterday on the phone over all the same old BS. Said I was ignoring her and it was not helping our situation. That it was things like that, that are pushing her away. I told her I really didn't have anything to say to her. If she needed to talk about the kids, she could send me a text and I would get back with her. Instead, if I don't immediately answer my phone, I get texts that say, "Stop acting like a child and answer your phone" or "I guess you're ignoring me again". Nothing of any substance though. She told me she wants to meet with the lawyer with me, I stuck to my guns and said no, that I wanted to see one by myself because I wanted to know my rights and there was no reason to be there. She thinks I'm going to go there and make her look bad. I told her I wasn't going to tell them anything I hadn't already told her. (Which a lot of it does make her look bad, but that is not my objective, I'm just going to be honest about the situation). She demanded that I give her the house key back so she could get her stuff from the house, and I told her she was more than welcome to get her things while I was there. She's still mad about me unfriending her on social media, and says I'm being childish. That we still need to be able to get along for the kids. I agreed that we need to get along and told her it had nothing to do with that. That I didn't really care what she was up to and didn't want a daily reminder when scrolling through my newsfeed. I told her I wasn't interested in being "friends"...

She signed the lease to her new place last night, and her uncle is buying her stuff to furnish it today. Uncle has been a huge enabler of hers for years. Anytime things aren't good or she goes on a binge, she complains to him about how much of an a-hole I am. Then he encourages her to leave and throws money at her. Of course he's only getting her side of the story, and he seems to be fine with that...

I will be continuing to take care of myself and the kids and be doing my best to avoid any of the drama that she wants to create. Lately, it's been threats of no longer wanting to go to MC if I don't give her what she wants. I've been sticking by my decisions, and tell her if she doesn't want to go to MC, that's her choice...