meg I'm in the same boat. Seeing positive changes but can't yet trust them.
Remember detaching is NOT about being distant and ignoring. Being angry and silent are just as bad as being needy and sad. Remain upbeat. Smile be happy. Consistently no matter what he says or does. Detaching is about not letting him dictate your emotional state. You are emotionally detached.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018