Thank you Marina7, Normally he is a very frugile person and I feel guilty being sick right now not bringing in money until next month. Fear walking on eggshells on how to respond so not to cause any confrontation. Now I am worried about if he thinks it’s my fault his sister is upset with him as he has a way of blaming me for other people’s actions Did you agree to a formal separation and consult a attorney regarding finances ? I’m even afraid to open up my own checking etc as I don’t know what to do and still waiting for my book to come in mail. I’m so use to being transparent with him that it is extremely hard to just be cordial and not reveal my thoughts and actions..