She got used to the cake eating and now she’s going to couples counseling just to keep an appearance that she’s working on the marriage but she still denies the affair what for me means she’s not willing to give up the affair.

Opinion or mind reading?

She wants the confortable family life that I give to her and the thrill of the illicit relationship. She’s been having it for almost 2 years because I was in denial but now I’m not in denial

Opinion or mind reading?

and all I’m realizing is that I have been micro managed to the point that she starts to work at 11 am and me at 7 am. She drops the kid t school at 8 am and then she has from 8 to 11 am free time that is never accounted for.

Intel


I get home after picking up the kid at daycare and get home at 4 to cook and take care of the kid because she works until almost 8pm.

This is your child isn't it? 'The' kid is yours.

And when she gets home she’s always tired, always a headache, belly ache, back ache, etc and the only intimacy is on Saturday morning, half sleep quickie with bad breath included and that’s about it.

Really?


Then the week starts again... I feel worn out because I would like to pursue a hobby or something and I can’t because I have to take care of the kid most of the day and when she gets home I’m too tired and is too late to go anywhere.

'The' kid


Is frustrating and today at couples counseling I’m going to drop the bomb and I will leave on Friday.

It might be frustrating and needs to change.
Children should come first in my view.


I can’t take this anymore.

Then change the dynamic that is applying DB.

V

Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW