Gisela, there are different schools of thought about whether or not you should have hope. My sense is that there is still hope. Your husband may need more time to see your changes. Today he might be determined to divorce but in a few weeks he might think twice. Before my husband left he did so many things that bothered me but now those things were like nothing....everything is relative. What you're going through right now is probably the hardest thing anyone can endure psychologically short of extreme physical hardships. Perhaps you can focus less on the looming divorce and more on having pleasant moments / dialogue with your husband as benchmarks of progress. Your husband is probably going through as much inner turmoil as you are. Each time you and he are able to connect in a new, more positive way is like scoring another point....even if the divorce happens you can still work on improving the relationship. You'll always be a family since you have kids. Since you're still together in the same house there is still a little bit of stability and there is still hope in my opinion, even though you have to be realistic like your husband says.
