I’m not vilifying her at all but I can’t just sit and relax like nothing is happening. She’s just trying to keep an appearance and it has become obvious that she’s not really into saving the marriage but saving herself. She shows no remorse, no empathy and contrary seems like she feels entitled. I been improving myself a lot and honestly I’m to the point that I don’t even care anymore if she’s having an affair but I care about my son, my money and my time because if she wants to Have her affair fine, I can’t force to be with me; however, I can remove myself from the equation, I can have a separate account and take care of myself and my son. Right now I’m pretty much trapped on the responsibilities and I have no time for nothing what is working on her behalf not mine. Removing myself from this mess is the only way I see I can pull through this without getting worse of my PTSD. I’m not pulling the plug because I’m open to save the marriage just not on her terms, not like this.