I understand jim1234 but I can’t continue allowing the cake eating. If you see my point about being micromanaged and if you see that I have almost no time for GAL. All the conditions are perfect for her to continue the cake eating. If I separate everything crumbles because she will lose all the support she gets from me financially and personally with the help with the kid and home chores because she barely does stuff at home. Now she will have to deal with reality. Now either she moves with her lover or she realizes the hardships she’s about to get. But me being the nice guy doing everything while she’s having fun is not a very though stanc on my part; therefore, I will never earn her respect back again. Right now is about me, right now is me saying that I’m a valuable human being, I’m A good father and a responsible partner and I’m not taking it any longer. If she wants to save the marriage first sh needs to commit and end the affair. If that doesn’t happen then I’m moving away until she decides to work on the marriage or just file. I’m not pulling the plug I’m standing up for myself because what she’s doing is emotional abuse plain and simple and vilifying me to keep justifying her bad behavior
