Meg - this conversation about "having nothing in common" is the exact one my H said to me... nearly identical. And, like you our kids are getting older and we are nearly empty nesters.
I would caution on pointing out to him that its MLC. He needs to figure this out on his own.
I think the text you got today was your H trying... in his way he is trying. With that said don't place to much hope in it. It just shows he doesn't know what he wants. My H said he couldn't possibly find happiness while stuck in our marital home, but the bottom line is he just doesn't want to feel trapped.
I know its hard - I struggled too but once I stopped bringing up R talks life is has taken a lot of improvements. I hate the feeling of being in limbo but overall we are being so much more kind to each other AND that helps tons!!!
Your H has to figure out his place in the M as you enter this new phase. I feel your pain and I know its hard... its uncanny how similar our H's are.
