RR17 you need to take the tact that your old marriage is done. Over. Either you move forward with a new relationship with her or someone else.

My WW went through that about 6 weeks ago. "Cant we just go make to the way things were?" What she meant by that is that we went back to being just roommates. That she didn't care or bother with what i was doing and vice versa. Then she could be free to have her private, online friendships. We'd put back up the facade of being a married couple but we'd be to strangers living together.

I told her flat out. No. Either we start a new healthy relationship or we split up. That I was not open to any other option.

Do not let her slip back into the old patterns. My advice would be to ask her what her plan is once the deadline comes and goes.

My wife worked on her resume for a few days. Then never finished it. That was nearly 2 months ago. I asked about it once. She made some excuse about getting stuck on the summary. I haven't asked her about it again in weeks.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018