Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

Another update and I think I now need to go totally dark and detach big style.

She opened up a little last night and said she wants whats best for the Children and I agreed, and after the hug on Sunday (I stupidly took that as a positive sign)

She said that we would take it one day at a time and as I am sleeping in a seperate bed this for me is the space element.

I then done a lot of validation and was saying how I could see how from her POV the mess we were in seems to big to fix and I said that moving forward we would put the children first, and not fight or argue or criticise each other, and that if that if she did I would walk away and if in front of the children I would take them out of the situation too, she agreed. I also said that with regard to the OM she would need to cut ties with him including FB etc. And she said she would "tomorrow" she was very defensive and I asked if they had been messaging that day and she said they had and I reiterated that those with nothing to hide, hide nothing. So I asked her if I could see the messages- her face gave the game away- so (the phone I pay for is enabling her to continue her R with him) so I told her how hurtful it was that even now she was not prepared to be truthful with me, she then started shouting and calling me a bully. This morning I reflected and could see my actions in taking her phone off her was an emotional response so I explained I was hurting so bad and that was why I did what I did.


So what now? Please help...