A familiar story with questions. III

[RR17]

Thank you, both for your clarification.

I see the importance. I assume this applies to WAWs as well?
This lack of loss is probably why I am in the same boat again after 4 years.

As a reminder, W had OEA 4 years ago. Flash forward and she BD last July that she wanted trial S. Expecting me to move out. I said forget it. After going dark (loss) and LRT she stated that she had been going through a lot and things began to go back to normal. No remorse. No real piecing. Just not more threat.

After losing my dad in November during a fight she states that she was moving out of the MBR and that when school gets out she was moving out.

I didn't object and just pulled away. More GAL. I'm working on being a man only a fool would ever leave. Understanding that regardless of what happens it is the best thing to do.

Well, I don't know if it was less pressure or what, but she becomes extra nice. More respect, concern and general niceness. Just no affection.

My concern is that once her deadline occurs and in the event that she decides to stay. I mean who wouldn't ? What if she wants to just phase back into business as usual?
I want to avoid the mistakes I made before I discovered DB. I want the loss. I want remorse. I want piecing and proper reconciliation.

I just imagine W skipping the hard work.

What do I do?

BTW, sandi, I don't see what you described as controlling or manipulative. It may be a side effect but it is part of GAL and appropriate.