First of all sorry that you are here, and I thought my W was the only one to do that pay all her debt. W took all savings and checking less than a thousand and took over 20,000 payed her credit cards and school loans while I am crashing literally, I know many of our W or H don't care about the finance but it seems our spouses do. My kids have said W buying a house and getting a new car, I know W has a good job I help put through school but at the moment going to court for child custody and child support and W pays for kids insurance so not sure if W would need to get a 2nd job to support her great life now once chid support kicks in for 3 kids.
Is sad seeing our loved ones care less about the people they once loved.
Keep posting and we are here vent when you have too this helps me mentally I have started meditation and counseling and finding myself again I realize I lost myself trying to make W,successful.
Here we are now. But remember you must
Take it a day at a time
At BD Lesbian marriage Me39,W36 S9,D9,S8 adopted all three Together almost 10yrs Bomb Drop - April 2017 W movedout - May,2017 OW June,2017 Currently 2018 Me40, W38 S10,D10,S9
