We agreed on separate holidays, but we won't tell the children about the true reason. That is all so weird. Do you know the book "when the one you love wants to leave"? The strong recommendation is to not hide the separation. The WAS has to fully feel the consequences of separation. But what to do if you have decided to stay together as parents under one roof for the benefit of the children? At least for the time being. And yes, both of us agree that it is beneficial for the children as long as we do not start fighting. I am afraid that the LRT cannot be as effective with such compromises and that we alienate slowly but sureley and that I have to watch how my H gets prepared for a new life with a new wife. My H has my perfect appreciation as a father and friend. I feel so much attracted to him physically, emotionally, romantically. In a relationship however, he is such a distancer it made me furious in the past. I would know how to handle that differently today.
