Living in the Present, only Looking Forward

[Coconut]

hmm, holding posted something about tests that woman give men to check their strength, like saying "I don't want to talk about it" when they actually want to talk about it. I didn't know the term $hit tests, but after reading some comments on it decided to look it up. to keep this short, I'm just gonna sum it up by saying that woman have lots of choices and these tests are supposedly ingrained in them to see who is a Man and will do "the right thing" when it comes to the W rather than just doing what she says.

Anyway, it got me thinking, I have somewhat altered my personality in that I consciously try to refrain from over explaining myself (NGS), when I have something to say I make sure it's heard, but I try and keep it focused on what I want. Anyway, it's a work in progress but I do notice the change I've made so far and it seems effective.

But then it got me thinking about dating, or more specifically showing an interest in getting to know someone. With gg, I went out of my way to show that I was interested in getting to know her the other night, I sat next to her instead of sitting in the group as I would of normally of done, I made sure to get her alone as she was leaving so I could say goodbye and letting her know I would like her to come to the painting night. But I wonder if it would be better for me to just tell her I'd like to get to know her better and ask her out one on one.

But I also feel like had I asked her out, I would kind of be committing to dating her right now and I would prefer to get to know her a little better first (since if it doesn't work i'll still be seeing her at game nights).

I think I might be seeing the answer as I think this through. So as I see it I have three options:
1. Continue to show an interest without actually stepping up - risk being friend zoned.
2. Ask her out - if it doesn't work out risk having game night become a little awkward
3. Just keep doing me, stop showing an interest or trying to manipulate ways to spend time with her and just talk to her when it organically happens (by circumstance or by her coming to me), and after getting to know that I'm interested, then ask her out.