I was asking about her message - what dose mean? She do not ask question, just gilt trip, i sow like this. My translation was very close.
You are doing a fine job of translating to English, but it's really hard for us to understand your W's intent because of the translation. A lot of subtle nuances get lost in a translation from one language to another. But reading it here is my take- you are taking away your W's safety net and she doesn't like it. She is trying to "nice" you back. IE, she doesn't want to give up OM or change anything, she just wants you to return so everything can go back to HER normal so that she can resume HER cake-eating of having a family AND an OM. I know it's tough on you but like Sandi said you have got to stand your ground and accept nothing less than her giving up OM and devoting herself 100% to your M. Don't believe all her sweet, flowery comments, she is not willing to commit yet. She's got to feel she will well and truly lose you before she hits rock bottom, and unfortunately that's likely to take a while. At least several months.
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Her writing to me in general, is that I make the decision to live and she will support this decision and respect me for doing that (no longer accept that), and she will never go back to me, or allow me to go back to her.
You know Sandi's rule about not believing anything they say and only half of what they do? Yeah, that. Don't try to dissect what she tells you and look for hidden meaning because what comes out of her mouth is 100% unreliable.
