You have shown much strength and courage. I am not sure if I understand the translation of your W's message, but I understand that she refuses to end contact with the OM. Until she agrees to no more contact with OM, you should not agree to live with her.

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So in your opinion, how often i can call to the kids?


Every day, as much as you want.

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If my wife call me, should i take the call?


You should tell her not to contact you unless it is for 3 reasons. #1 is about the kids.
#2 she ends contact with OM. #3 is for business matters.

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If she ask to go back at home, how to respond?


Ask if she has told OM no more contact. You don't go back to her, unless she stops all contact, and no more cutting OM's hair.

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What to expect from her as WW, she is very angry that i put down her normal life (stability from me and trill from OM2). I told her that i understand that she want the stability and family things from me and the trill filing from OM2, but i will not live like this any more. I told her that i had enough (OM1 and OM2), and she had time to work things out and change it, but she did not. In general her statement is that i leave her and the kids, i was cheating and separate from her then and she was not cheating and did not did nothing wrong.


She has been in control of your emotions for a very long time. She does not like that you take control from her. She will try to act in different ways to you, to get the benefits of the life she had with you. She tries to make you feel guilty for you turning to OW for sex. She wants to punish you more. When you left her, you take her power to punish you.

She will test you. She may lie to you. You are to believe nothing, until she stops having other men in her life. You must stay strong. You have nothing to say to her if she contacts OM. Understand?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!