After some setbacks, I am quite successively following the LRT now for 2 weeks, constantly. If we have contact I am friendly and listen. In addition, I am reading the Solo Partner for a few days, quite impressed how this books describes our MR. I guess as a result of my friendly detaching, the mood between my H and me is very relaxed, even friendly. This morning then, one of our Ds dropped his phone by accident, screen broken, and nobody wants to admit. My H was a little bit nervous all day long because nobody wants to admit it, he even suspects me. When I said sth. not in line with his opinion he shortly reacted aggressively. This evening he went out for a walk before going to bed (which he sometimes does, recommended by his doctor, bc. of his bad sleep). When he returned he was furious and blamed me that I would like to force him in to the MR. Normally he is never very controlled, never hot-tempered. So I was quite shocked, as he attacked me and demanded to continue the mediation of the marriage/separation contract and to planning separate holidays with the children. I am very proud of myself that I stayed very, very calm and constructive and proposed a date for a meeting with the mediator and a rough plan for the holiday. I said just a few sentences and went to bed then. Still, I am quite puzzled what made him so furious. According to the book Solo Partner, if the pursuing partner backs off, the distance partner might get into "ugly phases". What is going on with my H? I am not puzzled because he wants to continue the mediation. I am puzzled because out of a suddend after his short walk he returned so hot-tempered and emotional which is the contrary of his normal personality. And then this accusing that I want to force him into the MR - a reaction to my changed behavior being calm and detached? I am so puzzled that I cannot sleep.
