Former WH, now LBS Please Help, close to Give Up

[betheoa]

Hi there, so finally i left the house, so there is what happens:

Last weeks our iterations was good and pleasant.WW has talk about future and the new flat, that we should buy. I did not refuse to discus, but stay neutral "not enthusiastic at all".
We really had good time, there was not any intimacy (of course).
There was back rub and feed rub (me massage her), at her very pleasant request.
She kept contact OM2 by FB, and ones see him at her work place (he come for hair cut). After him visit her, she FB him about how when him come back after 10 days, they will go on dinner. So i tried to hold my emotions.
So there was not attempts for disrespect in front of me. No FB text in front of me.
There was disrespect while talking to her GF, haw she will see OM2, and will not allow me to dictate her life and so on, also she lie her GF about how we behave each other , when we are at home. She says to her GF, that my WW do relay talk to me, or other (unpleasant)behaviors, but the realty is that my WW behave very pleasant to me.

So yesterday we had wedding anniversary, day before that while we were glossary, i take one chocolate (and said i will be for tomorrow), i just wanted to notice the date, but nothing like (being exited).
So what happened yesterday:
At the morning we drink coffee, and start clean the house.
At some point, i had a call from work about the emergency situation, so i must go there. I propose to my WW, if she want to come with me, she respond that, may be it will take time for me to done, and she do not want stay at the car (waiting for me). I did not insist.

Whale driving, my gut filing wast that she will use my absence (not be at home) to FB OM2. So i was wright, they talk about OM2 new flat and the issue around the flat, as well as my WW tel him that she (we) are considering buying new flat. Casual thing - like just friend conversation.

So i went back at home, i put a lot of effort to be relaxed, and not show i know that she contact him.
I make my self tea, and start do some things and chat with her about casual thing. She ask me to come next to her, to show me some sport video clip on her FB. I seat next to her, she ask me to rub her legs, while we watch the clip - at this time i was known - that OM2 was not red her last text and she was known as well. So all the time while was next to her i was preparing my self, for the moment OM2 will text back. So while we read some other page (not the FB), there was the signal about FB chat, i was keep rub her legs and waiting what she will do, so she played as nothing happened, and wait until screen turn off. I become silent, she ask me what is wrong, i ask are you going to see who was Fb chat? She respond, she know who was, the ask in not respectful way, why i ask her this: i answered : open the screen - there was OM2.
My first reaction was, to tell her that i will told the kids, that i will be missing the home for a month (work related things), and will use this time to found constant place to stay (like physical separation), she say she would want to talk withe me before talk to the kids. She ask why i am doing this, i respond that we already talk about this, and she did not do nothing about it (cut the OM2), i propose her to write to OM2 no contact letter in front of me, she refuse. She told me that this is an ultimatum from me to her, in order to stay to live with her and the kids, and she will heat me for that, i respond that her ultimatum for me is to accept her friendship with OM2, i said that i will not respect my self if i am doing this any more, i said there was enough time past a why, so i do not want to live like this any more. I ask her are you going to cut with him wright now, wright here, she start talk BS (but in reality says NO), so i went to the bed room and start pack some clothes.
She come to the bed room and ask me if there is OW, i said no, i said i am leaving because i do not want live like this. Then she start talk softly to me, and telling me there is not any relationship with OM2, that he is not pressure her at all, and he do not want nothing from her, and she is the one initiate the contacts (about this, she is write), There was the speech there just friend and so on, my respond was i will not live, in a marriage like this. She told she was expecting this, leaving her because she not behave like a wife (sex and intimacy), i respond that i am leaving not because of this - she respond that the real reason to leave is not OM2. I stop talk an continuous to pack my clothes. So there was 10 -15 minutes more talks like this (repeated the same things).
before to leave she start threatening me, that until now she was not allow any other men to touch her, but she will reconsider this. I did not react to this.
Then she said that will be the end, and there is not way back ever...and so on and so on.
She ask me to put out my wedding ring, i said will do when i choose, she said to put it wright now, i said give me your hand, to take out your wring then you will take out my, she said she will do with her wring what she wants, i respond i will do the same.
before leaving i told the kids about living for long time, and will hear on the phone and will see when they want to see me and it is possible for me to met them. They did not understand what happened, and accept this like something normal (i have work to do - because of this will not be at home).
I left the house, did not say nothing to my wife.

So i went at work (there was an emergency).
some hour later my WW call me, i did not answer. She call again, so i answer, she ask where i am, i said at work, she ask did i found place to stay, i said there was emergency (at work) so i will found the place later. She ask when i am going to take my other things from home - i said when i found place to live. The she tell me that she put me out from her FB to be tagged like husband. i said ok, then she said that she was doing this because i have done it, i respond i did not do nothing. Latly i found she do not put me out from my husband position in her FB (she played something). I said ok bye.

So all evening she was FB chat with OM2, she tried to put conversation about relationships, but he do not go deep into the topi. She did not told him about my leaving or other issue from today.

So here i am, i left, i am scared, i am doubt my self (it is right, am i controlling her, is her filing for OM2 are like just friends)....but...it is done, if i go back and said i was wrong i will not have any chance for her respect never.

So in your opinion, how often i can call to the kids?
If my wife call me, should i take the call?
If she ask to go back at home, how to respond?
What to expect from her as WW, she is very angry that i put down her normal life (stability from me and trill from OM2). I told her that i understand that she want the stability and family things from me and the trill filing from OM2, but i will not live like this any more. I told her that i had enough (OM1 and OM2), and she had time to work things out and change it, but she did not. In general her statement is that i leave her and the kids, i was cheating and separate from her then and she was not cheating and did not did nothing wrong.

Support me to stay where i am, for the first time i am doing something like this, i am feel guilty...

thanks in advance