I too love my In-laws. I just lost my last parent back in November. These people have been better than my real family.

I play golf with my 84 year old FIL at least once a month. My MIL is wonderful and I couldn't ask for more.

Point is, I feel ya.

Do what BD says and regardless, you will fair better.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.