I agree with what SBJ said, I too feel a connection walking this path with others that understand. I am very grateful to have found this family of helpful and compassionate people.
Gordie, I am glad that things are looking up for you. Yes take care of your side of the street. Good to hear your smiling. I hadn’t smiled in months, lots of depression, and felt terrible. Then one day I felt like smiling again. During that day depressive thoughts came back and the smile disappeared, but I caught it and force a smile (chose joy) for the rest of the day. That was difficult for the first while and became much easier as the day progressed.
A smile, that small action can cause a dramatic change in outlook. We LBS’s understand how one’s perception is one’s reality, we have living examples in front of us our MLC spouses. We also have ourselves. How we chose to look at things shapes our perceptions and alters our reality. So, keep smiling and enjoy life.
I think it is good for the MLCer to vent (if you can take it), it clears the fog for a while allowing them to see a little clearer for a bit. It’s hard to find your way in the fog. The venting is good for her, she can work out some feelings and depression. Just let it roll off you, unless as you said you were a bone-head.
Do more of what works and less of what doesn’t. You’re doing great.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
