Sorry you are here. As you read around you will find that your story is not so unique. In fact, it is very similar to mine.
I am a little further down the road but no more out of the dark.
I will share what I have learned from the forum and DB.
The past can't be changed. How you proceed can. Read sandi2's rules. Read, reread and read them often. You will slip. We all do.
WAW's like to think you can be friends after a D. They do. It helps with what little guilt they have.
Who knows if you will be friends? I wouldn't lead W to believe it is given. Sure you will co-parent, but friends?
Keep up LRT. She will notice any changes. You will notice her response. Don't be fooled. You will get confused and want to get back to bliss. Stay with it or you will only prolong the outcome. Trust me.
Work has to be done. It takes time and short-cuts will delay any true progress. Nobody wants this to be drawn out. It just takes time. It has to be done right.
Regardless of the M outcome, you will fair better if you work the process. You will.
Keep posting and journaling.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
