Went to a spoken word open mic tonight, wow, if you haven't been to one, put it on the GAL list.. Think TEDtalks.. One of the readers read a "Letter to my daughters mothers boyfriend" who was moving in.
Spoke to the fact that he doesn't dislike him because he is filling his role, but that he wants to like him because they both are what his daughter will know. That they both will be the foundation of who daughter will eventually date, and both being better men is what he wants his daughter to face.
I am not able to describe it as eloquently as he did, but I couldn't help but to give a standing ovation, which many followed. Later learned that in 2 1/2 years of this event going on, it was the first standing ovation ever given.
That mans poem earned my respect and the standing ovation.
I wish I was there for that one. It is what I am living now. Actually reading it brings tears to my eyes, I probably would have been bawling if I was there.
Losing my husband was not the hardest part of this journey. Having to introduce a new parental figure who came in the way she did has been my biggest struggle. It can't even really be explained. But you can see a bit of it in my most recent post.
I watched her stepmother the other day soothe my daughter before her first ice skating lesson. I think her dad was being tough on her on the way there and she gave D10 a pep talk along the lines of "don't worry about what daddy says, you know how he can be, you will do great" She is my daughter's protector there.
I made that about me, sorry, but kudos to that guy who could get up there and talk about it.
And I love reading how proactive in GAl you are and how you are really exploring new things! I wish I could join your kayaking group, I have always wanted to do it. I imagine in 7 years when my kid is off to college, I'll be living life a lot like you (granted I don't ruin anymore body parts) I don't even see it with a partner, believe it or not. If my mind goes directly to that time, It's me doing a whole bunch of things I never thought I would.
keep up the good work, you inspire me and give me something to look forward to.
