1. It is very confusing how she can flip flop on how she acts towards you day to day or even minute by minute. I’m a slow learner and it took me months to detach from the roller coaster. One minute I thought she’s being nice and maybe we’ll reconcile! The next I thought, it’s over—there is no hope! This is why they say you need to find your own center. Stop giving her the power to control how you feel about life...and most importantly, about you. Can you have a great day independent of how your w acts? She is happy and affectionate? You have a great day! She is angry and critical about your every move? You have a great day! This is really hard, but you can do it.
2. My w too was a grade A wife, mother and the home was her castle. And then she checked out and left me to pick up the pieces. There are a lot of us guys here in that boat. I frankly did not know how to cook well, clean well, or take care of the children well. And when I started to do so out of necessity? Yes, all I got was criticism. Ignore all criticism. If she doesn’t like the food you are cooking, she can cook for herself, etc. You’ve gotta figure out how to do this your way. Will she appreciate your efforts? No, not at all and this is why you have to have no expectations.
This is a marathon, so keep your chin up and take one step forward at a time.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
