Yes that did occur to me before, it also feels like that very much at times...
The thing is though, while one moment she does that, she will lash out at me the next, telling me how she can't stand it anymore that i am constantly taking control of everything, her included! That i have always been too dominating in our relationship and that i will not accept anyone else's opinion but my own etc. etc.
While there is truth to all this, she presents it in such an extreme way that it makes my head spin!! She won't take charge for taking care of our son since she is constantly gone and when i take matters into my own hand since there IS no one else anymore, then she will criticize me right after for it, telling me how she would have done it much better!
We really ARE dealing with teenagers here people. Only it's MUCH worse because she is STILL better at managing our household (she was the one that did it before MLC anyway for a good reason) while i just do it because i HAVE to since no one else will, which is fine really, i just wish she would appreciate it a little or at least not nitpick things and start a fight over it again.
But there we go, it's always the same isn't it? She is just provoking me so she can justify her actions and how it really is for the best to go for divorce... maddening stuff, it really is.
