If you have a Durango you may well have a trailer hitch. You should be able to borrow / rent a trailer for the move. I have an open utility trailer if you felt like driving 20 hours for it I'm sure you know someone closer who could assist. When I moved S23 home last summer I wrapped everything up with plastic vapour barrier sheeting (better than a tarp) and it survived heavy rains.
It's unfortunate in many ways that even though you are trying to build a life separate from him that he struggles to let you go. Your prior comment was an indication of that. As you know though, he's the central character in his story, the rest of you are all just bit players. So his health problems are everyone's health problems as just one example.
As a guy who is larger than the average bear, diabetes is something that I've always been concerned about with myself and my doctor keeps a close eye on me. My ex was convinced that "any day now" that I would succumb despite being much more overweight than I was, she would regularly brag about how healthy she was (she wasn't). I do believe that one of the things that worried her was my health and the idea that I would need care and tending or just drop dead one day on her.
I think it's in part what they call "projection" where they paint us with their own fears and phobias just like perhaps in the earlier years of the relationship they painted us with their hopes and dreams.
You are a capable, competent woman and can handle any challenge in front of you, especially with the support and love of your kids and your friends. Unfortunately until he's satisfied (and he may never be) that "another man is taking care of you", he'll probably keep circling and trying to help and fix things. I've been perhaps more fortunate than many in that my ex completely cut herself off from me and to a large degree the kids when she ran off. She certainly would have seen that I'm managing all of the practical things as well if not better than when she was here. I'll never know though.
Maybe you need a "Rob" Google a you tube video under "discount car family reunion" for a chuckle.
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I'm sure you know someone closer who could assist. When I moved S23 home last summer I wrapped everything up with plastic vapour barrier sheeting (better than a tarp) and it survived heavy rains.
Google a you tube video under "discount car family reunion" for a chuckle.