New LBS, not sure if he's having LMC

[meg24]

Let's see if I can sum up the last 3 days. Most of what's been going is with special needs s21.

Every morning he's been asking about H's boxes of clothes, when will he be home, how long will he be gone, etc. Just remember, he's 21, almost 22, with cognitive abilities of 8-year-old, on a good day.

Every day after school he calls me as soon as he gets on the bus, then again when he gets home, and sometimes again before I leave work. He asks same questions over and over. I just keep telling him I don't know. We have to take one day at a time, just focus on today. I finally had to ask son's doctor to increase his anxiety med dosage, and current is no longer working. I even called his teacher, so she could help ease his anxiety at school. I finally came up with the idea to put H's visit schedule on kitchen calendar (s21 LIVES by the calendar, goes nuts if something is there that doesn't get done).

I guess last night when H got home from work (I was already asleep), s21 proceeded to ask him something about the calendar (H informed me of this conversation this morning). I told him we need to come up with a schedule and put it on the calendar. H said "I wish you would include me in on these decisions before telling him" (kind of along the same lines how he told s19 and s17 aboud BD without including me on that decision). I told H that I mentioned to s21 that we would put H's visits on the calendar once we know what they are, there was no decision involved. He said fine, maybe he would spend some Saturdays with s21 after son's bi-weekly Saturday activity, possibly have s21 spend night at his new apartment. Yeah, that won't go over well with s21, he hates going ANYWHERE, he hates sleeping anywhere but his own bed. But we'll see. But it does need to go on the calendar for s21 to look at. Then when H flakes/forgets/overbooks himself (he's done the SEVERAL times), he can deal with the fallout.