Newbie In Need Of Guidance #2

[SteveLW]

rminer, there is going to be a lot of things that bother you. Some of the things I've found since BD:

-Nude pictures sent to OM #1 (EA).
-Paid account and full profiles on two dating sites.
-Messages sent to guys on both sites AFTER I confronted her about the profiles/accounts.
-Sexual messages from OM #2 (EA).
-Several sex toys that I was not privy too.

Everyone of these discoveries was like a hot pickaxe too the chest. These are on top of some very hurtful things she has said to me in a very matter of fact way. Things like "the thought of having sex with you is like the thought of having sex with X" where X was a very unflattering person. Or "when the preacher was talking about how sex is a gift for you and your spouse and you need to be committed to the person you took vows with, it made me very sad because I don't think I'll ever feel that way here". There are a dozen more. Again, the words hurt, but the matter-of-fact way in which she stated them, as if she was reciting her social security number, was even more hurtful.

So buckle in. You are in a long ride full of things that are going to bother you. Even hurt you. It is all part of the process.