One of the things we implemented was her taking back over the grocery shopping. I had taken it on because before several raises/promotions we were on a budget. She admits that she has a tough time staying within budget and is very much an impulse shopper.
So today she went grocery shopping for the second time. Normally when I grocery shop, even when we need some big ticket items like dog food, laundry detergent, etc, I will spend about $150. In fact we budget about $600/month for groceries and other household items.
Her bill today was $350. When she told me I didn't say a word. I just said, "oh okay". I believe this was a test to see if I would react the way I would of prebomb. First of all, when she went to the store I would have told her "please be reasonable". She hated that. I said nothing before hand.
Then when she said $350 I would have said "HON! That is way too much!" But I didn't say a word. She even started by saying "I spent way too much! I spent $520." I never batted an eye. Then said "No $350." And just shrugged and went back to what I was doing.
I think this was clearly a test to see if the changes I've implemented in myself are for real. She knows that overspending was a huge hot button issue before.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
