Thanks for your feedback, Joejoe1. I have to agree to every detail you said. I was too needy and demanding. I've changed a lot, probably not yet enough. My H says things like: "You've done xyz for too long, I don't believe you anymore." Even if it was too late now, I have to be consistent and patient as you say.
On the one hand, the LRT makes a lot of sense, in order to effectively stop or slow down the separation process and in order to break the pursuer-distancer pattern. On the other hand, implementing the other 180s is vital as well. That isn't totally contradictory, but in some cases. On the one hand, I should restrict communication to the absolutely necessary. On the other hand, I should listen carefully and be patient if he wants to tell about his job issues. I am not yet sure how to deal with such issues.
