LRT -

[joejoe1]

G,

I slept on your response. I want you to read the problems your H say he has, not from a perspective of it being you, but from the perspective of it being a person outside of your M.

From my perspective that's a lot of pressure on any person, Man or Woman. If I was your H, I would feel like I could not satisfy you. I would feel you are too needy and too demanding as well.

Keep in mind this is your H perspective, you might not be doing all these things, but this is what your H has perceived. If you want a chance to save you M. 180, 180, 180. Learn to control your temper and start taking pressure off of your H.

You have a lot of things I know you can 180. 180s are about being consistent and allowing time to do it's thing. If you were doing all that and you change for a day or week, you H will find that suspicious. You have been treating him a certain way for so long, that he probably feels like you can't/won't change. He probably feels, if you are changing, that they won't be sustain, so consistency and time.

To comment about your colleagues opinions on how they see you, we operate totally different with friends, family and colleagues, then we do with our spouses. Just because they say they see you a certain don't mean that's how you act with your H. Are they with you at night when it is just you and your H? I doubt it. You are working on yourself and your M, not the R with your colleagues.

If he loves cooking, why not trying just enjoying the meal he has made for you. Don't give him advice unless he ask. If he ask how it taste, once in a while you can say, "babe it's perfect". Let him have that win. One day he might just start asking you, "how can I make it better".

Love bends!!!!
Onward and Forward