Not sure what to do. . .can anyone help?

[mbe76]

Yes- I did read your posts. . . .a lot to think, but in terms of what I want is the following- I accept the R in its previous state is over- even if the M isn't. In the meantime, I will continue to 180, detach and GAL, and if she chooses to want to discuss R then it will be piecing to the max.

If the R is over, my plan is:

I will stay in the MH until she or her OM buy me out and I can take equity to buy a new place or we sell the MH and we both downsize- The equity is not too much- so rather than pay ongoing spousal maintenance I would look to get a financial clean break order. She (as a SAHM for 7 years thinks she can afford it on benefits- she is in cloud cuckoo land) either way unless the OM is willing to buy me out, or she goes back to work- I cannot see anything other than a house sale.

She does seem to think that she can somehow manage to afford the mortgage on her own- as the youngest child is over 2- any means test will tell her she needs to get out to work- so her only real option for staying in the MH is if he buys me out really. That'll test his commitment for sure.

In terms of the children, I want a 2 week cycle, 2 nights in week one midweek, and 3 nights week 2 weekend. I have a very supportive boss, my opening position will be 50/50 custody, and I will be happy to negotiate to my preferred position.

There was a question asked if I had evidence of OM, I have screencaps of conversations from FB and have been keeping records of convos too. Not too sure if the FB messages can be used though- she had left her FB logged in on the phone I pay for....?

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