In limbo with WW on antidepressants

[SteveLW]

Something else I've been meaning to bring up. Our counselor had a really good observation in our last session. (Remember we didn't go to our session this past week.)

Anyway, she mentioned that my W had been a stay at home mom for 13 years when she discovered this karaoke app. The counselor talked about how "a whole new world" had opened up to my W and that it was fun and exciting after years of serving others and losing her identity. (The counselor worded this much better than I just did.)

Anyway, it did get me thinking that my wife had become home bound. She really only went out when she took our D to school and picked her up from school. Occasionally when I was up at the hunting property she and my D would go out to eat.

My W had really thrown herself into house hunting, and was really big into the 2016 election as well. Much more political than she'd ever been (I had always been the political one).

So it did appear that she was grasping for something. And when it finally came along in the form of this singing app, she was willing to drop all else to fully embrace it. That was when she started to withdraw. Started to lose weight. Started caring about her appearance again after years of not caring about it. Really started to distance herself emotionally.

Her Love Language is words of affirmation so she is especially susceptible to the compliments she gets for her singing.

Couple this with my anger, resentment and constantly making derogatory statements and it was the perfect storm.

So anyway, I thought the insight that the counselor articulated really hit it on the head. And it took a long time for us to get to BD, I need to remember that it's only been 2 1/2 months since. You can't turn around something that quickly that took so long to get into. So thank you for the poster above that reminded me that limbo is the gift of time.