Nice job! I think it makes you feel better about yourself, and your house. However, when you post about these projects, you usually add your W's reaction. If you sincerely search your heart, are you doing them as some sort of revenge tactics? I thought it started b/c you were trying to repair things around the house......and about yourself, that had been her complaints for years.
Originally, I think that your motivation came from showing her how well you could make changes. And that's okay. It got you moving! Since then, you have kept the homefront running well. You have done the organizing, housework, cooking, and taking care of the kids. Where do you get your current motivation?
I think you've said this is for you and the kids. You were pretty ticked when she started seeing OM. So, if you know she is not happy about the bedroom renovation being done after she left the home.....why do you have her choose the colors? I'm just asking.........trying to get a feel of where things stand now.
What is the relationship like between you and W? Does she still come over to the house for family activity, or some meals? Is the OM still in the picture?
Personally, I don't see renovation as GAL. I mean, it can be a hobby of sorts.......I guess. But what are you doing that is not attached to the kids and/or house? What are you doing to socialize with others, or something that is fun for Bigy? Unless I've missed it, you've stayed pretty close to house and family, and whenever asked about GAL.....your response was "the renovations". I am asking if you have other things that require you getting out among other people.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
